(george)
God I hate that effing man.
Oh well, at least I know. At least now I can go out and spend even more money on testing strips for the monitor for another month on the carousel. I can now book an appointment for my Doctor for god only knows what tests, and get myself on a god-only-knows-how-long waitlist to see a specialist. And, although no-one will have any clue how devestatingly heartbroken I am... I guess if I do knock anyone to the floor at the wedding who dares ask why we aren't pregnant, if we are planning on having kids, or when we are going to start trying- at least I'll probably get off with insanity.
I have never known anything as frustrating as this process, and trust me - I've had my share of frustration and "ups and downs". The worst thing is that there is virtually no support. Sure, I'm on a couple of websites for people trying to conceive, but let me tell you that when you are forming bonds with others who share in your plight... after a while as the others start to come back with posts of their big fat positive results, it can get to you a little.
Ok, vent over. I'll get there someday. Or I'll knit myself a kid (ok, so first I'd have to learn how to knit). If only I had kept that Cabbage Patch Doll...
One last thing. I'm going to need to arm myself for battle. If ANY of you out there have any suggestions on how to politely and effectively respond to the prying questions of family members at this weekend's wedding, please send me any suggestions... I thought briefly of making a pin that reads: "1.NO we aren't pregnant yet, 2. YES we desperately want kids, and 3. Actually we are a bit heartbroken about it all so could you please please please shut the eff up???"
<insert sigh here>
While our journey ended at a road block, I hope yours is just at stoplight about to change.
ReplyDeleteThe route I took for questions was honesty. "We cannot have children, we have to adopt." And usually I would go further and say "Andy does not have a vas defrens" that while maybe TMI, headed off the questions about what if I lost some weight,just go on vacation, or you know what will happen as soon as you start the adoption process....nope, while everyone's sister/cousin/bf/niece had the above happen, my dh has a god-given vasectomy. I admit that I might not have been so forth coming if the problems were with me. I put the info out there before people can say things to me. Of course if you replied "Pregnant? Not yet, but lets compare notes about vaginal mucous!" that would probably put a quick stop to the conversation. I wish you lots of luck.
Sarah (aka Junebug)
Thanks so much Sarah. Loved the comment about mucous. That should make some of the older ladies spit their teeth out lol.
DeleteHun, I'd reply 'we decided to adopt in order to avoid the insanity that runs on your side of the family'. That should shut them up ;)
ReplyDeleteI'm sorry about George showing up.... :(
Hilarious! If I had a prize to award, you'd get it. The funny thing is, there IS a fair amount of insanity on his side of the family LOL!!!
Deletelol, well there we go then! Very appropriate and truthful comment! I love your attitude and your sense of humour! I truly and honestly hope that things work out for you and hubby in your quest for parenthood. Cheers to you!
DeleteJeannette :)